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All In a Day's Mental Sexiness

 
All In a Day's Mental Sexiness
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Mentally Sexy

Name of Entrant Busy-Dad-E
Why I am Mentally Sexy So Why I am Mentally Sexy?

Being Mentally Sexy isn't something that's done to score "husband points", to look good for others, or to win a contest. It's a fundamental part of who I am as a husband and father, a core belief of my personality.

In other words, being Mentally Sexy is about the way I choose to live my life and set my priorities. Sure, it's great to surprise your wife with a things like flowers, chocolate, a massage, or a romantic dinner periodically. It's also great to surprise your kids with a special "date" or treat. But being Mentally Sexy is really about the little day-to-day things that you do EVERY day.

My mom always said that you should care about your spouse more than you care about yourself. She was partially correct. I'd aruge that you should care about the two of you as a couple than more than you care about yourself. That might mean taking time for yourself--like for regular exercise--which ultimately benefits you both.

I have a wonderful wife of almost 7 years. We have 3 boys, ages 5, 2, and 1 month.

My wife and I are a team--we take equal share in the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood.

I work full-time, but am home most every evening and weekends. Those evenings and weekends that I'm not home, I'm working at a second job to help put together a down payment on our new house.

After the work day ("first shift") has ended, I come home for the "second shift" (my favorite). This means picking up the boys, going to their activities, fixing dinner (whoever is home first gets its started), playing, bathing, story reading, and goodnight-ing.

Some days, when my wife is really tired, particularly at times during her pregnancies with the boys, I tell her to just go to bed, and I take care of the above things myself. If she's running late from work, dinner is on the table when she gets home (never mind the kitchen is a disaster awaiting cleaning). She does the same for me when I need it. Remember, it's an equal partnership.

After we pass out on the couch go to bed, we start the night/"third shift", as we have a newborn. When he wakes up (and I do, too, which is a majority of the time), I'll go get him and bring him to our room so that my wife can feed him. Then I'll change him and put him back in his crib. My wife and I have each had times that we've been up with the baby for an hour-or-so at night, without the other being aware.

The attached picture attempts to capture why it's hard a to have your house on the market with 3 kids age 5 and under, including a newborn the essence of daily Mental Sexiness.

Sincerely,
Busy-(Mentally Sexy)-Dad-E


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Man-ing up and getting the job done on a daily basis is very sexy.

 
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i can see that busy dad-e is great at multitasking: holding baby, cleaning, etc. i think i'm with pete on this one: i think that's a house double. i have 1 tween & 2 teens and our house looks NOTHING like that. you would think younger kids make bigger messes. even though busy dad-e may not be a stay at home dad, you can see the mentally sexiness coming through by the things he does for his wife and kids. i know when i read his blog you can tell he really loves his family.

 

Mentally Sexy....TWO THUMBS UP!

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I wrote a review, but didn't realize I wasn't rating Busy Dad-E. Please see my comments below, Aunt-E

 

Mentally Sextastic

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Definitely hard work cleaning and holding a kid. He didn't even have time to change when he got home from work and had to go straight into holding one of his children while vaccuming. Awesome entry!

 

Mentally Sexy By Busy-Dad-E

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Busy-Dad-E is mentally sexy because of the way he loves his wife (my daughter) SO much. He is mentally sexy because of his care, attention, and obvious love for his three sons. I have always felt that helping with the kids is not a "favor" a dad does for his wife. Children belong to the mom and the dad. When I hear a dad say he is "babysitting" the kids I always have to wonder what in the heck he is thinking. The kids are just as much the responsibility of the dad as the mom...therefore one does not "babysit" his own children. He cares for them. Busy-Dad-E understands this and that makes him mentally sexy. Yes, he vacuums, cooks, grocery shops and so many other things around the house, but the clincher for my vote is that Busy-Dad-E has his head in the right place. A mother knows when her daughter is truly loved, and I know that my daughter is.
PS: Busy-Dad-E helps the boys say the sweetest and cutest nightime prayers.
Gramm-E

 

Hard work and dedication

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Great entry, except that being mentally sexy is most definitely something done to win a contest. Not convinced the house in the picture is in fact his real house - way too clean. Possibly using a stunt double house just for this contest. Will investigate and report back.

 

Solid Entry

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It's always tough going first. This is a good entry. He's doing housework, holding a kid and he's in khakis. Not sure why, but this entry speaks to me. It says, "I have kids, but that's not stopping me." I like how he talks about helping his wife when she was pregnant--that's mentally sexy right there. Things that could have been improved on:

The kid--not nearly a discipline problem. If the kids was spitting up on him or running around as he was trying to vacuum, that would be something. The level of difficulty could be higher.

More pics--pics of him doing something nice for the wife would be in order.

Creativity--overall a good entry--but there is some room for improvement. A solid B.

 
 
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Busy-Dad-E
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written by busy-dad-e, January 31, 2010
The pic was rotated correctly on my desktop/in the related blog post. Not sure what happened.
Reservoir Dad
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written by Reservoir Dad, February 01, 2010
Outstanding entry!
Busy-Dad-E
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written by busy-mom-e, February 25, 2010
Way to go, Dad-E! I snapped this picture one day while we were cleaning for company (which is why the toys are not covering the floor in their usual fashion). Little Brother was being a little extra clingy that day, so Dad-E opted to pick him up so I could keep my hands free to tackle some of the other messes in the house. Thanks, Dad-E for always being welling to pitch in!
Love, Mom-E
Busy-Dad-E
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written by busy-dad-e, February 25, 2010
@Joeprah: Thanks for the review. In response to your "areas of improvement".
1. "The kid" - You're looking at the end product. Little Brother is not a discipline problem in the photo BECAUSE I'm carrying him while vacuuming. I used my Mentally Sexy Jedi mind trick-like powers to keep him calm, cool, and engaged. He's getting on-the-job training as to how HE can be Mentally Sexy one day.

2. To protect the innocent, the focus here is on the text of the entry, moreso than the pictures (hence no faces). Besides, who wants to see a picture of me carrying Bab-E Brother into our room at 3am so Mom-E can feed him (despite what Greg Focker says, I can't be milked)? I admit that a picture of me having a home-cooked dinner on the table when Mom-E comes home would be a plus--it happens in real life, but I don't trust Big Brother with the camera to doc*ment it.

3. Creativity - again the focus is more on the text. The photo wasn't staged. Mom-E was just capturing life as it is at our house.

@Peteej: Thanks as well for the review. Mom-E's comment helps vouch that the house is real, and in part why it was clean.
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written by Joeprah, February 25, 2010
I am tough because I care. smilies/grin.gif Still a very good effort. I just need to let everyone know how I am judging this thing. smilies/shocked.gif
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written by Aunt-E, February 26, 2010
As Mom-E's sister, Dad-E's sister-in-law, and Aunt-E of the three boys, I can honestly say this is their house as I have been there on many occasions. Every time I go, the house is amazingly clean for a family of five! Another thing I can vouch for is that they wouldn't stage a pic like this. Mom-E loves to capture Kodak moments, so this was surely one of those. My critique: Excellent post. Being mentally sexy is knowing when to help out around the house and WANTING to help out. It is also thinking about your family and putting them first in your life. Knowing Dad-E and reading this post helps me to come to the conclusion of TWO THUMBS UP for Dad-E!
-Aunt-E
Joeprah
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written by Joeprah, February 26, 2010
The E crowd is awesome! I totally feel the mentally sexy vibe. smilies/grin.gif

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