Single Parenting

Monday, 19 April 2010 18:12

Written by BikiniMom

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Single Dad It happens time and time again, a woman confessing behind her boyfriend/fiance’s back that she can’t stand his children. Alright, he only has his children every other weekend, two weeks during the summer max, so maybe it isn’t all the evident. Common sense screams, “HOGWASH!”

Are men so blinded by the desire to get some action that they honestly can’t tell that their current love interest really doesn’t like his children? True, a relationship with a woman that doesn’t have any children of her own is far less complicated than a relationship with a woman who has her own children as well. But surely the pool of quality women isn’t so shallow that he can’t find one that actually likes his children too. Is it?

Are these men desperate or merely clueless?

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Looking for a few good men: For a Web Show

Tuesday, 26 January 2010 10:50

Written by sexandthesingledad

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J. M. Flagg's Uncle Sam recruited soldiers for...

What up my dad-blogging homies? Or is it homeys? UrbanDictionary.com lists both as being correct. I think I like the look of “homie” better, so I’m gonna go with that. But (as usual) I digress. Let’s try this again…

What up my dad-blogging homies? I’m honored to be asked to write this column for Dad-Blogs and I am throwing down the hetro man love for all of you who fight the good fight every day, then sit down and write about it. Like Uncle Sam, I am looking for a few good men. Relax. I’m straight.

Looking for Dads for a Weekly Web TV Show

I’m excited to announce that beginning March 3, 2010 at 11 PM Eastern, Sex and the Single Dad will be a weekly web-TV show on a new site, www.TalkUSA.tv. The premise of the show is simple; I want to share with the world (at least the part of the world that will be tuning in) what it is that we do. I want to tell stories and laugh about dating, parenting and how these things affect our lives. I’m going to take calls via Skype and I want a weekly rotating guest with me to talk about their site/blog and what is happening in their little corner of the world.

That’s where you come in. I want to get some of you into the rotation to promote your stuff. If we all work together we can help the cause and bring up our numbers. I see nothing wrong with a little shameless self-promotion. Speaking of shameless self-promotion, I don’t think I’ve yet mentioned my blog, www.sexandthesingledad.com. It’s where I chronicle my life as a full-time single dad raising a 12-year-old I like to call The Drama Queen.

I figured that if you’re going to read this column and if you’re going to participate that you should know a bit about me and how I roll, so here’s my dealio: First off, I give all the people in my life nicknames in a very Seinfeld-ian way. That’s good info to have as you read through my stuff. If you ever get lost I have a “The Cast” page on the site.

Tuesday, 26 May 2009 00:00

Written by iammomdad

Now I’ve done it. I’ve become a columnist at Dad Blogs. This means everything I say is now official and recorded for posterity.

I am feeling the pressure.

Kind of like the pressure I feel being a weekend dad.

If you are a father, if you are a parent, I’m sure you can relate.

Weekends are supposed to be the halcyon days of parenthood, long lazy afternoons stretching into the twilight hours full of board games, and stimulating conversation, and nature walks.

Things were easier when we were kids. Saturday meant staying in your pajamas until noon, parked in front of Saturday Morning Cartoons with a bowl of Fruity Pebbles. Then you went out to play until dark without supervision. Weekends were a break, a respite from the grueling week of getting up early and eating dinner at a set time.

I imagine weekends have always been hell for parents.

Wednesday, 20 May 2009 00:00

Written by iammomdad

Objective: Attain Manhood

Example: This Sunday I set out to do Man Things.

I was attempting to fill the void my father had left behind, as well as get around to the things he would normally have been doing for me. After he passed away suddenly this winter the children and I decamped from our old house, an eternal renovation project, and moved into my mother's. This alone has led to many hilarious and frustrating developments which are a story for another time.

So my house has sat unused (disused) and has begun to show extreme signs of abandonment. I decided the best remedy for that and for a long Sunday stretching out into wherever, was that I wear the pants in the family and gather up the kids for a day of Man Chores.

We started out the morning on the porch with hot chocolate and a pair of binoculars prepared to watch the local wildlife wake up. As it turns out we were the local wildlife...so wild that we scared anything feathered or four footed away. So mostly we just slurped marshmamellows and watched the leaves on trees close up. After fortifying ourselves with manly fried eggs and sausage we sauntered over to the homestead with a List.

Now I understand why men don't make lists...they are set ups for failure.

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Crap... I'm such a chick

Thursday, 14 May 2009 00:00

Written by iammomdad

I need an intervention.

I feel like a poser, a fake, the butt end of a joke.
I am just mommin' it up all over the place.
I just can't think like a dad. I get defensive, and over-analytical, and self conscience. And it's not just a girl thing, Ciara's got bigger balls than I do, (That was a compliment) it's an attitude.

And please, please don't tell me I'm doing alright because it's just like a woman to need to hear that. I need stories from the trenches...I need real dads to tell me what they do.

It occurs to me that Dads are probably going through the same crisis. In the mom-driven industry of parenting they must constantly face criticism and second guess themselves. They must be looking for support and encouragement as they break new ground. So maybe I'm not so out of touch after all.

I see all these cool guys that have stopped trying to be Mr. Moms and Mannys and have embraced their role like...well like men

So fellas tell me please..what makes a dad? Give me a list of the Dad things you do...clue me in to the dad perspective.

Tell me how to parent like a man.

Please.